Kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahaan nahin miltaa...

....Kahin zameen to kahin aasmaan nahin miltaa (word to word translation in english - no one ever gets the entire universe ...ssomewhere the earth and somewhere the sky is missing)


These lines have been rattling in my head non stop since the past week.... I owe it to the tumultuous times in my life.


Hey but on hindsight... 'mukammal jahan' is what i define for myself - what do you say? If I don't know to balance work and life, and at one point in time of life i only work and another point i feel hopeless about loosing it - claiming it to be the only exciting thing i had - who is to blame?


Who complains about having all the time in life - to go back to a long forgotten hobby, to get started at something you've wished for long, to be able to travel to places and experience different cultures, to be able to read - fiction/non fiction/world affairs, to be able to spend so much time with family and dote on one's husband.


Ever thought about your life like that... incomplete and so unhappy - re look at what you think completes it and makes you happy. Mostly either you already have it and never noticed or didn't realize when you did have. It's also possible that you don't know what makes you happy - then you have a serious problem and deep thinking to do my friend.


I am no sage... but having these conversations with myself keeps me sane.


On that note - i have been feeling very angry with some people this week, coz i think they let me down  and have been very selfish - but i have concluded that it's my good deeds that have always stood by me and i shall live my life by the principles i have coz that's what's best for me. I shall hold onto this thought... and more on this in my next blog.
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let me complete the shayari tho so that you don't have to go hunting for the rest of it...with a literal english translation ... copied from http://www.shayri.com/forums/showthread.php?t=58347


jise bhii dekhiye vo apane aap mein gum hai
jubaan milii hai magar humjubaan nahi milataa

Whoever you see is lost in their own sorrow
They have thoughts to share but no companion to listen


bujhaa sakaa hai bhalaa kaun vaqt ke shole
ye aisii aag hai jisame dhuaan nahiin milataa

Who is able to douse the embers of time
This is a fire that has no smoke


tere jahaan mein aisaa nahiin ki pyaar na ho
jahaan ummiid ho isakii vahaan nahiin milataa

It's not like there's no love in your life (universe)
Where you hope for it you won't find it there

What's it like... leading a team...

I am transitioning out of my current role, one that I enjoyed so much and which gave me such a high - but well this is not about me.


It's about the team - the team that I was leading.


As they move onto being aligned into a new supervisor I was reflecting on what basic principles does one use when leading a team. The analogy which came to my mind was that of a child learning to walk... it actually does fit very well... in fact a child’s growing process.


Like a child, you give them a hand to help them learn to walk, and then you experiment with letting them walk on their own for short distances - supporting whenever you think they may loose balance. They eventually learn to walk and then run... and you let them, yet not let them out of your sight. And then they gain mastery at what they are doing, just like the child goes through teenage and adolescence. They want their independence, bigger playing grounds and find new paths - and they need to be allowed to do so, the way a child ventures out - builds his/her own world. And parents let them do it, coz they know that the child is now capable of dealing with the consequences.


It's very fulfilling to have led a set of good people.  It’s a lot of learning and a mutual growing process.

getting started...

it's a landmark day... after pondering over it... talking abot it multiple times... thinking about it all the time... i have finally gotten started with peening down ...some good moments from my life... and thoughts of my wandering mind... and pains of my cribby soul.


My blog is going to be a travelogue - i am going to try and put down everything that may be worthwhile for others to know, my thoughts on social issues and some of my experieces with the mundane things we deal with everyday.

Moving to US Series - Part 1

We've 'been moving' to US... been moving... yes... since we've been trying to settle down since last november. Infact it started way back - november/december 2009 should i say, and here we are in august of 2011 yet far from settled. It seemed like a very interesting thought to me - to move to another country! I was bored of living in the same city for 7 years (only then did I realize that not having lived in one place as a kid may be did that to me) and being in the same job with the same company for 3.5 years (yes my first time to stick for so long... my husband is different tho... just clocked 7 yr with the same company - n beat it - same boss!). The desire for change turned out to be quiet an affair.

Our trip in August 2010 was meant for us to do a reki of sorts of US... to help us decide if that's what we wanted. But the decision was made way before that..in our minds.. and this was just to be a reaffirmation. So after a pritty swift visa process we were in US. A month and half was good fun - saw places, met old friends from college (particularly for my husband) - decided a couple of years in US would be a good adventure.

And that's were the uphill task started... it's been a long journey.. yet not reached destination... and I shall recall the milestones through my next set of posts...